I don't want to get heavy but I could do with some advice. I have worked at the same place for the last 7 years. It is a shitty place but the pay is good and for where I live, it's one of the only unskilled places you can work. I am 99% certain getting sacked monday night 7pm GMT. Thing is it's for nothing. literally ! It's a personal thing with my manager and he has won. Nothing I can do because that ks the shitty way the place works. I have a fiance and 2 young kids. (we had them young) Everthing is perfect in life except my work. Financially we will hopefully be fine as she has just earned her degree an d will have her full time job very soon. However, I am the man so therefor feel duty bound to bring in a good wage. Thing is I don't have a clue what to do! I'm pushing 30 and get scared at the thought of taking on undergraduate course. (I left school with average grades, not bad but not good enough to go straight to uni). Growing up my dreams were 1. To be a firefighter. (my government has put a stop on new recruits for at least 2 years) 2. Be a primary school (elemetary) teacher. Possible but would require college for a year then Uni for 4. Thats is a huge commitment as I would not be bringing in any money. 3. Game or web design/related. This has interested me in the last few years but again would require Uni and I constantly get told there are no jobs in these fields. Also, if there were, I have no idea what exactly it is, I want to that is computer based and if there is a future or money in it?
I'm reaching out here. Maybe not the best place but I'm unstable right now. Any advice or tips would help right now. What a mess. What makes it worse is I've put so much into that job. Time, commitment, injuries, all to get it thrown back in my face for nothing. I hate the job but work so hard at it to try make a future in it. :(
I know exactly what you're going through. I got booted from college in my early 20's, I had assumed I would finish my animation course and get a job in a studio. Then I got the axe for failing too many projects and I was out on my ass. I gave up drawing and got a job at Costco, which I actually enjoyed. Then I got laid off from there too. I spiraled into despair, I had no direction. I really enjoyed drawing but everyone told me there was no money in it. I had no hope of anything other than a crappy job.
So in 1999, out of sheer desperation, I decided to just create my own jobs based on what I enjoy. I started Zeebarf.com and everything snowballed, I just started posting a cartoon everyday and soon people started to find me and offer me jobs. It kept growing until I found myself doing artwork for a major Canadian TV show, which gave me the opportunity to pitch my own show which aired for 2 years. I loved that gig, but then they pulled the plug on it and I was back to square one. I had nothing to fall back on, so I decided I always liked games so I'll try that.
Fast forward. I'm married with a 2 year old and I'm betting the farm on a PC downloadable adventure game.
I say follow your dreams, find out what you really want to do and go for it. If you're not even 30 yet you have all the time in the world. Who cares if uni is 4 years? We're talking about the rest of your life here!
BUT only do that if you actually really want to do that job. If you want it because it might have a big pay cheque, that's the kiss of death.
Get a crappy part time job to fill the gaps while you work on something real, a goal or a business or anything you dream of doing full time some day. It's only depressing if you settle for a lame job that pays alright and your dreams pass you by.
I haven't made a dime in months and if Ballads flops I'll be in financial ruin, but whatever. Sometimes you're flush and sometimes your bust. Go for the gold, dream big, fail big, live big. We only have one shot in life man!
I would look at this as the biggest opportunity in your life right now, you have a clean slate. If you're wife can hold down the fort, then you have a shot to do whatever you want.
Figure out your dream job, then figure out a way to get paid for it.
I wish you nothing but the best!
Your words mean a lot Jay, thanks man. Your very brave doing what you are doing but you are happy. That is one thing that I have learned through all of this, I need to be happy. I have went through depression because of this job and for a guy in his twenties to go through not is not right. I have a good life away from work, a good house, car and family but my work life has created so much pain. It's frustrating as hell.
I don't know what I am going to do yet. I am going to speak to some people at Uni and get a feel for it. I will end up doing something random because that's my personallity. My wife can hold down the fort but I think it's my pride that would suffer becuase I have supported her through Uni for the last 4 years and it seems strange to me for her to that for me. Kinda old fashioned that way. The ideal job would be working from home but doing what, I don't know.
I'm angry right now becuase of my work but I will have a week off and clear my head with the aid of beer and take it from there.
Computing appeals but there are very few jobs here for that sort of thing. I have a lot of friends with degrees that are still working in supermarkets because they can't get jobs.
One extreme option is moving away all together. My wife is a nurse so she can get work abroad but wtf would I do? We have looked into it for a few years and Perth, Toronto and Montreal are the stand outs. Very low crime rates and not a ridiculous living cost.
But that is the huge/crazy option. I would imagine getting a degree before we did that would be much better.
Thanks for the kind wishes!
i hope / know the ballads will be a sucses for you jay my friends have told me they preorderd it , all your time and effot will pay of
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